In my last post, I asked you to share the things you do to stay resolute in your decision to stay childfree. It’s no surprise to me that your answers were fantastic. If you’re a fence-sitter, I feel this post may be especially helpful. Actually, anyone who is, or wants to become, resolutely childfree will benefit. Here’s how The Rinky-DINK Life readers are getting there in 2018:
I remain resolute in my choice by reminding myself of everything I have to gain from being childfree rather than getting hung up on the ‘what ifs.’ When I think of the freedom and independence this choice is affording me, I know it’s the right one.
– Lisa, Simple Life Experiment
Every day I am reminded as to why I am childfree and thankful to myself for making that decision. I love going home to a quiet house, having the weekends to do whatever I want, and traveling all summer.
I have so many overwhelming reasons to stay childfree — genetics, the environment, mental and physical health, time…It helps to surround yourself with a like-minded support network, because many won’t understand.
– Veronika, Debts to Riches
Thinking about how different our life would be if we had children makes me feel more confident in our decision.
– Rosie Webster
The environment is a huge one [reason for being childfree] for me, but also time to spend on other projects in our life to make a positive impact.
– Kristine, Frugasaurus
My passing daydreams of having a kid are always about having a baby, a cute kindergartner — never a 9, 12, or 17-year-old. I’ve seen it summed up as ‘little kids = little problems, big kids = big problems.’ That reality keeps me pretty grounded.
My life is completely incompatible with kids, now or ever…So sometimes I have to remind myself that me and the idea of a normal family just have nothing do with one another at all. My life and kids don’t even fit together one tiny bit.”
My husband and I have vowed to minimize our life this year…Neither of us is willing to compromise on the quality of life, disposable income and career in order to have children.
I am going to reduce social media use to return to my own creativity and reduce lost time in my day to day. Since I’m happily childfree I always thought time would be plentiful, but every day I want more.
To me spa days are the best, would never let anything make me give them up.
I always ask the universe to grant me the foresight, wisdom, and compassion to stand tall in my child-free decision when I encounter good-natured but ignorant people…Reminding myself of why I made my decisions helps explain them to others.
For me, it’s our podcast. It’s our listeners and it’s reaching out to all these people. It’s talking about it. Having our podcast is a way for us to truly be ourselves and kind of put ourselves out there to get to know like-minded people.
– Bev, Married Without Children
We’ve only understood that we’re childfree for just under two years — that’s not very long. We’re still understanding that and exploring that…I have to talk through things. This is my therapy — for real.
– Chris, Married Without Children
All Roads Lead to Childfreedom
I wish I could include everyone’s comments because each one was so meaningful. I’ve learned there’s not just one way to become resolutely childfree — there are endless possibilities and avenues to take to get here. All roads lead to childfreedom…except, I suppose, having a baby 🙂
In short, how you get there is up to you but there does seem to be a common thread running through the answers:
- Know your “why”
- Question more
- Reflect often
- Be intentional
- Engage with like-minded people
Let me know your thoughts on this post below! PS: you’re all awesome.