Many are starting to think about the year to come.
What things should change? What should stay the same?
New Year’s resolutions are drafted and many look to the year ahead with cautious optimism, despite a dismal 8% success rate.
I made a resolve nearly two years ago to become childfree. It may not have appeared a far leap from the (by chance) childlessness to the (by choice) childfreedom. However, it was.
So what if it’s December 26th? People fail to stick to their resolutions because they procrastinate.
If being childfree is the lifestyle you choose, there’s no reason to wait until next year.
I didn’t make my resolution to be childfree on January 1st. Regardless, I made a resolve to consciously, willingly, abstain from having children*
We often think of resolutions as firm decisions, but resolutions can also be formal expressions of our opinions. So, why not do both?
Although the decision to be childfree is ultimately a personal choice, it doesn’t mean you can’t tell people about it. While shouting it from the rooftops may be a bit extreme, telling someone you’re close to, someone who will support you, is a good first step.
Remember how I said I made a conscious decision to abstain from having children? Therein lies the difference between being childless and being childfree.
I was childless my whole life, of course, as I’ve never had kids. It was only when I decided that I wanted to remain this way that I became childfree.
It’s truly a mindset more than anything else. To the untrained eye, you won’t appear any different than any other childless woman, which is what can make this decision complicated.
Some women may pity you. Other women may be merely confused by you. Even still, some women will admire you.
If you’re resolved to be childfree, you can prove that you are not a victim of circumstance but rather a victor empowered by choice.
No matter what day it is, make the resolution to become childfree and live the life you long for!
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*I would never want to convince a woman or couple to withhold from having children if that is their desire. While I am an advocate for childfree living, I am an even bigger advocate for making your own decisions. I’d imagine you are here reading this post today because you are considering a similar lifestyle to mine.