If you’re reading this, congratulations. You survived yet another Mother’s Day. One of the downfalls of social media is being unable to escape current happenings, holidays, et cetera. I’m more active than ever on twitter, Instagram, and Facebook these days and while I’ve willingly made that choice, I can’t help but roll my eyes in Anderson Cooperesque fashion at the steady stream of #momlove.

I don’t have anything against moms. I have a mom (hi mom!) and I love her dearly. However, I think we would both agree that I should take advantage of the 365 opportunities per year to appreciate her, not just the one commercially-driven day. I recently heard of someone who would agree with me on this: Anna Jarvis. Just who is she?

Anna Jarvis is the founder of Mother’s Day. She created the holiday in memory of her own mother who cared for wounded soldiers in the Civil War. Jarvis’ mother may have been her source of inspiration in more ways than one since she also established a holiday of sorts – Mother’s Friendship Day. This celebration was used to establish peace between Union and Confederate moms. Although Anna Jarvis founded Mother’s Day from a place love and admiration, she grew to regret having created it once commercialism took over.

She referred to the florists, greeting card manufacturers and the confectionery industry as “charlatans, bandits, pirates, racketeers, kidnappers and termites that would undermine with their greed one of the finest, noblest and truest movements and celebrations.”

-Jonathan Mulinix, The Founder of Mother’s Day Later Fought to Have It Abolished, mentalfloss.com

Jarvis lived out the last of her days in a mental asylum. Now, we can’t say Mother’s Day is what drove her mad but one of her last public appearances included going door-to-door petitioning Philadelphians to rescind the holiday. Hm.

Many today have similar beefs with how commercialized Mother’s Day has become, referring to it as a Hallmark holiday. Plenty of women who are not mothers also have a difficult time accepting this day as it fails acknowledge the 48% of women who do not have children and the 1 in 8 couples who are infertile.

I myself spent the day with a head cold and caught up on some much needed spring cleaning. I even cleaned the dogs. Nothing and no one was safe. While cleaning, I also made sure to check up on social media (it’s a love/hate relationship) religiously. I asked my childfree brethren how they were spending their Sunday. One thing I’ve learned from Mother’s Day is that the childfree know how to do it right, that is they know how to not do it. And they do it (or not do it) better than me!

Many spent time with their pets, worked on their houses, spent time outdoors, caught up on some much needed rest and relaxation with their significant others or alone, and one even became a mom…

@littledarlingdream

@littledarlingdream

@littledarlingdream

@littledarlingdreamMy favorite kind of birth announcement/gender reveal.

A special thanks to Jess (@littledarlingdream) for sharing these photos with us.

So friends, whether yesterday was a day of indignation, indifference, or agony, at least we can rest easy knowing we have another 364 days to go before the next one.

Comment below to let me know how you spent your Sunday! 

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  1. Reply

    Wow I did not know any of that stuff about the founder of Mother’s Day – and she ended her days in an asylum? I wonder what happened there. Maybe something to do with her mother, ironically. I do understand Mother’s Day, and I think hardworking, overlooked mothers deserve it, but what I hate about it is the blatant disregard for people, men and women, without mothers. I’ve never viewed it as hurtful for the childless because all the consumerism and retail crap is squarely aimed at the offspring of mothers – I get a barrage of emails starting a month before insisting that I treat my mother, buy her something nice, don’t forget her, etc etc. I went through infertility and came out a non-mother but I don’t get so much a twinge about this on Mother’s Day – all I think about (or used to) is my dead mother and the fact that I’ve never had a mother as an adult. I totally get why it’s horrible for some infertile women if they are church-goers – that tradition of making the mums stand up in church is brutal and stupid, IMO. I don’t know if this happens in the UK – I’m allergic to church myself. It’s funny that you never really read any articles about Father’s Day – I’d love to know what infertile men think about it, or whether they do at all. One thing that does absolutely bug me is people posting excessively gushy things on Facebook to their mothers who don’t have a Facebook account – it’s all about them, not the mother, of course. Irritating and attention-seeking.

    1. You brought up some really great points. I can’t imagine being barraged with Mother’s Day ads after losing your parent. It’s true about Father’s Day, you don’t hear much about it. Thanks for commenting!

    • Kate
    • May 17, 2017
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    Hi Brittany! I’m so thankful my sister-in-law pointed out one of your blog posts to me today and now I am reading, reading, reading through some of your other ones! My husband and I are very much fence-sitters right now. We’ve been married just under two years. This is my second marriage and I’m almost 34. As of late the “weight” of making this decision feels very heavy on my shoulders. I always thought people just know whether or not they want kids and I’ve been dumbfounded as to why we don’t just “know.” I keep thinking maybe we’re not ready since we are still so new in our marriage, or maybe that AHA! moment hasn’t hit us yet. But in reality, we just want to decide as soon as possible, so that like you’ve said, we can move on and really feel comfort in whatever decision we’ve made. Anywho, I could ramble for awhile but just wanted to say I really look forward to your future posts. I think you are doing an incredible job and I’m already feeling so much support sitting on our decision fence here in Wisconsin 🙂 It feels amazing to know we aren’t the only ones out there facing this decision.

    1. Kate, hi! I was so happy to read your comment, thank you! Please send my thanks to your sister-in-law as well 🙂

      My fence-sitting days were long and arduous! If you haven’t already, feel free to check out http://therinkydinklife.com/fence-sitters-guide-anxiety/

      Don’t beat yourself up for not knowing. It’s a good thing you’re taking the time to really think this decision over. It’s also really great that you and your husband are in the same boat. You’ll be able to come to the decision that works for you as a couple.

      Please let me know if there’s any way I can help, even if you just want to talk it out, I’m here!

        • Kate
        • May 18, 2017
        Reply

        I did read that post! Your thoughts and points are really helpful. We know a couple older than us who chose to be childfree and they said the same thing as you – how its super smart to just take the time to really think it though. That is so encouraging to hear! Keep rockin’ on!! 🙂

        • Kate
        • May 18, 2017
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        I did read that post! Your thoughts and points are really helpful. We know a couple older than us who chose to be childfree and they said the same thing as you – how it’s super smart to just take the time to really think it through. That is so encouraging to hear! Keep rockin’ on!! 🙂

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