Last week I had the privilege of writing for The League of Fabulous Women, a lifestyle network for childfree women. Founder and childfree woman herself Chloe Peacock gave me free reign to tell the story of how I found my voice as a childfree blogger.
I began my journey as a petrified newbie.
You see, at that time I had never even uttered the word “childfree” in real life. My husband Colin and I had decided not to have children, of course, but this choice wasn’t something we advertised. To be completely honest, it wasn’t even something we were proud of. Over the years, I became comfortable considering myself as someone who didn’t have kids. If people interjected, “You don’t have kids yet,” I’d muster a fake chuckle but I did not correct them.
This past Saturday marked the one year anniversary of my first post on the rinky-DINK life. As my article for TLFW explains, it took me many more months to speak my truth. I’m happy I bared parts of my soul and encouraged dialogue about the childfree choice.
We all can and should have a voice, not one that is only used for speaking out against the stigma, but one for teaching others about our lifestyle, one that is proactive in explaining who we are and what we stand for.
Every time I read an article or an excerpt demonizing the childfree, I admit I want to scream. But then I remember who we really are. Sure, I may be biased but I think you have to know the complicated inner workings of this dynamic before you can even begin to pass judgement. We all come from different backgrounds and have different reasons for embracing the childfree lifestyle. We’re young, old, introverted, extroverted, men, women, surgically sterile, naturally infertile… Generally speaking, most rumors about us are more akin to folk lure than reality. Perhaps its easier to vilify us as some sort of subhumans. Sorry to disappoint, though:
We are just people – people who made a different choice.
And without all of you wonderful people who made a different choice, I wouldn’t be able to do what I do or share what I have. I want to personally thank each and everyone of you for your continued support of the rinky-DINK life. Every comment, email, tweet, or shoutout means more to me than many will ever know. In an effort to empower you in your choice to be childfree, you ended up empowering me.
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